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53 Years of Torture Over – World Champion San Francisco Giants

It breaks your heart.  It is designed to break your heart.  The game begins in spring, when everything else begins again, and it blossoms in the summer, filling the afternoons and evenings, and then as soon as the chill rains come, it stops and leaves you to face the fall alone.  ~A. Bartlett Giamatti, “The Green Fields of the Mind,” Yale Alumni Magazine, November 1977

For 53 years and 53 teams, baseball broke the hearts of San Franciscans, but tonight an improbable team ended years of frustration and enhanced the love of a sport and 25 guys who worked as one.  As their management and the team tried to convey, the victory was for a city, for fans, for past players and for past generations.  The atmosphere has been electric for the last month.  You could feel how badly people wanted this one and perhaps needed it.

Torture was the word of the year to describe this team, but  it really wasn’t one year.  It was 53 years.  A team of underdogs, a team of misfits, a team that nobody ever believed had a chance, was the team that everyone fell in love with.  The team with a rich history of Hall of Famers had its most  successful season with a bunch of no-names.  In the future, many will not remember some of the names that helped to bring San Francisco it’s first baseball championship.  As I mentioned previously, the City of San Francisco loves its champions, but more they love their champions who do it the right way.  The 2010 San Francisco Giants did it the right way.  There will be many who say they knew this team had it from day 1, but if they tell you that, they are liars.  A team of misfits, discards from other teams, showed the world what teamwork is all about.  They have said repeatedly this post-season that the most talented team doesn’t always win.  It’s the team that plays the best that wins.  As late as the beginning of August this team was in 4th place and 7 or 8 games out of 1st place, but the team showed how baseball is a parallel to life.  You work hard, you keep grinding, and you never stop believing.

Nick and I Fear the Beard!

As a San Francisco native I am overwhelmed.  There are hundreds of thousands and perhaps millions of natives who grew up in the same generation as me, who had moms or dads that introduced them to baseball at Candlestick Park or Seals Stadium and had to wait their whole lives.  Everyone has their own unique story.  There are many people like me who wish the dad that introduced them to the sport were here to enjoy and celebrate with them.  Yes baseball is just a game, but it is America’s past time.  It is like life itself.  Unlike those in New York who have 27 Championships, this is San Francisco’s first.  For those who have waited their whole lives for this day, it is a day to be savored.  Hopefully it won’t be 53 years until another championship is won.  Those who had seen things go wrong in the past know the heartache and how sweet this victory is.  This will not be taken for granted.  It will be cherished.  It will be savored.   The team itself reminded everyone of the history of the organization.  It reminded those not old enough about the heartaches of the 3 previous attempts at the World Championship.  It reminded me of the great history of San Francisco, and it reminded me of all the great things the City has to offer.  The team helped me to teach my son about all the great history and people that built this City.  My son saw Joe Montana, Bob Weir, Steve Perry, Danny Glover, and a slew of other celebrities from the area cheering for the team just like him.  Somewhere around the 7th inning of Game 2 he started to grasp the gravity of the situation and understood the passion around the desire to win the whole thing.  A World Series victory would be the beginning of a big healing process.

There is an old adage in baseball that as Spring Training begins, hope always springs eternal. No matter what I am always optimistic about the Giant’s chances.  This year I wasn’t.  I really felt this team didn’t have what it would take.  It shows how life is so unpredictable, how what is perceived could also be deceiving.  Baseball and life are unpredictable and just when you least expect it, it will serve you up a surprise.

Growing up watching Mays, Marichal, Perry, Cepeda, McCovey, Clark, Mitchell, Speier, Fuentes and all it is amazing this team has accomplished something that those other teams couldn’t.  No heroes, just a bunch of blue collar ballplayers.  Fortunately for me I was able to share a little bit with my own son and helped him to understand how unique an experience this is and how unique this team is.  Attending the last game played at home and also participating in the Opening Ceremonies of Game 2 of the World Series was not only a unique experience, but it was the creation of a memory that he will keep forever.  Having my son tell me, “I will never ever forget this day” was a highlight for me.  I remember when my dad took me to see Ed Halicki’s no-hitter back in the late-70s as if it were yesterday.  I know my son will be thinking the same even 30 years from now.

Carrying the US Flag

It is only fitting that Edgar Renteria, a player that is at the end of his career and contemplating retirement was the MVP of the series.  He spent many months on the bench, has a torn muscle in his arm, yet was one of the many heroes in the end.  Hard work, determination and a never say die attitude, were Edgar’s message to all.  It’s one we should all learn to employ in life.

I am speechless to say the least.  I am more choked up than anything else.  The memory of all those who never got to see this day, but taught us to love this team, this City, and the game of baseball would be proud of the 2010 World Champion San Francisco Giants.  They were not only a team of destiny, but true deserving champions in every sense of the word.  A team of misfits who fit perfectly together.

As I write this, there is honking and hollering in the streets.  The younger generations are celebrating in the bars and dancing in the streets, but I know there are many like me also sitting at home with not so dry eyes thinking of those who never got to see this but helped us to appreciate this moment.  They taught us how to “love the laundry” (as Seinfeld calls it).  Such a bittersweet time in San Francisco.

The much maligned announcer, Joe Buck, said it best….”America’s Most Beautiful City now owns Baseball’s Sweetest Accomplishment”.

Is There Magic Inside? Or are there Particles?

“You close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nostrils and savor it” – Duane Kuiper (former Giant 2nd Baseman and current radio broadcaster)

There's Nick Inside

Game 1 and 2 are over.  The Giants were victorious in a game 1 that was labeled a pitcher’s duel and turned out to be a slugfest.  A crazy day as I got stuck in a meeting as the first pitch was tossed.  Others in the meeting had one eye on their iPhones and the other on the presentation.  Coughing and mumbling occurred when the Giants went down 2-0 but smiles broke out as the game was tied at 2-2.  it wasn’t a pretty victory, but at this time of year you take wins any way they will come.  Game 2 was more traditional..at least from the Giants way of thinking.  Something else went wrong for the Rangers.

“There’s __________ inside” is the tagline of the Giants marketing department.  Nicknames and other terms were inserted.  Magic, Freak, Panda, Orange and other fun terms were used over and over again.  Recently the word Torture was added to reflect the closeness of the Giant’s style of victory, as in   “There’s Torture Inside”.

As a long suffering Giants fan, I know those Cubs and Indians fans must be rooting for the Giants.  There are those who might say that given the Rangers are in their first World Series ever while the Giants are in their 4th since they moved to San Francisco, the Rangers should be an underdog too.  Well the experts were all picking the Rangers. This made the Giants the clear underdog. Not so fast!  Don’t those people know about Particles and Magic?  They are better than stats and scouting reports.

Now that Game 2 is over and the Giants have darkened the hopes of Rangers fans, there is an optimism that this team just might erase the ghosts of 1962, 1989 and 2002.  Two of those series, ended on fateful mistakes and great plays while the other (1989) was marred by an Act of Mother nature which made baseball seem very small in the greater scheme of things.

One of the morning talk show hosts on the Giants flagship radio station calls it “particles”.  The force by which all things come together and create destiny.  Was it particles that interfered and suddenly gave the Braves a case of the dropsies?  Was it particles that put a hole in the bat of Phillies slugger Ryan Howard when he had a chance to do something big? Was it particles in Game 2 of the World Series that caused the Rangers pitchers to lose the strike zone and allow 8 straight batters to reach base?  I’m not sure, but the catch phrases are everywhere.  From “Believe” (mantra sung to Don’t Stop Believin by ex-Journey lead singer Steve Perry who is a season ticket holder and attends games waving his towel) to “Torture” to “Magic” the team has captured the imagination of the City.

As a long time Giants fan who has been through all the ups and downs, seeing the baseball team I grew up watching on the brink of it’s first World Championship is a bit of an end game.  And this time it feels right.  I normally never count my chickens before they are hatched, but the particles just seem aligned now that I see it coming.  San Francisco has won championships in basketball and football in my lifetime and if you look back at the first championships of those teams it makes perfect sense why this baseball team should be the first.

San Francisco has always been the City that does it with style, with a bit of a twist, and in a new way with a dash of the old.  It’s businesses such as the Gap, Levi’s, Williams-Sonoma, Zynga, Twitter, etc. are model examples and their Championship teams are no different.

The 1974-75 Golden State Warriors won with the first black coach (Al Attles) who had a fading superstar (Rick Barry) that he taught to be a team player and a cast of young players (Keith Wilkes), local heroes (Phil Smith) and other outcasts  both young and old.  Attles was the first coach to use all the players on his bench such that I can still name them all by heart 35 years later.  The team was a heavy underdog to the team many thought to be the next big powerhouse in the NBA, the Washington Bullets, a team led by Wes Unseld, Elvin Hayes, and Phil Chenier.  The Warriors used team chemistry, smarts and a great defense to win that series 4-0 for their first and only championship.

The 1981 49er Championship team was made up of a young scatter-gunned armed QB named Joe Montana and 3 rookie DBs (including Ronnie Lott) coached by a man they call the Genius, Bill Walsh.  Walsh would show the NFL the power of the short passing game.  Very few can even tell you the names of the starting RBs for the 49ers that year (Lenvil Elliot and Earl Cooper).  Walsh changed the way football would be played for the next 15 years.  The 49ers beat their long time roadblock, Dallas, in the NFC Championship game with a famous play known only as “The Catch”.  In the Super Bowl, the 49ers were again the underdog to another team making its mark, the Cincinnati Bengals.  In fact, it has often been said the jeweler had to change the etching in the MVP trophy to remove Ken Anderson (QB of the Bengals) from the trophy and put on Joe Montana’s name.  The 49ers went on to win the first of 5 Super Bowls with a 20-16 win.

Now to these Giants.  Here we are again.  Underdogs.  Historic names have played for this franchise.  McCovey, Mays, Marichal, Perry, Alou, Cepeda, Kent, Bonds…and yet no trophy.  52 years of futility (3rd longest in baseball).  Some might say the Giants do have superstars as they have a 2-time reigning Cy Young winner on their squad.  Yet in Game 1 it was the Rangers pitcher, Cliff Lee, who had never lost a post-season game that everyone was enamored with.  The thunderous power of Texas (where everything is big) is supposed to overwhelm the Team of Misfit Boys, the Little Train that Could, the San Francisco Giants.  I venture to guess if the Giants go on to win the World Series, there will be some tough decisions to pick the MVP. This team is truly a team and everyone will have contributed largely in their own way.  No superstars.  The pitcher who makes $18MM/year was even left off the playoff roster (Barry Zito).  A team has no room for superstars.  Maybe that is the message this team will send around baseball

Oh yes, particles or magic.  Was it particles or magic that Joe Montana introduced the Giants starting lineup on National TV before Game 2?  Was it particles or Magic that has all that crazy electronic trance music stopped between innings and put the 45,000 people into a happy calmness by singing Lights by Journey with Steve Perry conducting from his seat?  Was it particles or magic that MLB told the Giants to leave RF Jose Guillen off the post-season roster because he is being investigated for drug -trafficking, forcing the Giants to use Cody Ross (the eventual NLCS MVP)?  Maybe its the particles from the aroma (which was definitely present at a baseball game that made it smell like a rock concert) brought on by the old hippies attending the game: Neil Young (CSNY), Jonathan Cain (Journey), David Crosby (CSNY), Lars Ullrich (Metallica), or Bob Weir (Grateful Dead) that prevented Ian Kinsler’s 5th inning hit from going over the fence.

I’m not sure what it is, but I am living in the moment thinking it is destiny.  It just feels right.  As I sat there singing “Take Me Out to the Ballgame” with my arm around my son right before the Giants would start their big rally in the 7th inning of Game 2, I remembered the NBA Basketball Championship I shared with my father, the Super Bowls with my dad, and the World Series championship we never got to have.  I’ll share it with my son instead and it will be just as sweet.  I know I’m not the only dad in San Francisco who feels this way.

The Bonding Journey – Travels with Herbie

“Contrary to popular belief, in this day and age it is easier than you think to escape and get away from it all” – Anonymous
Driving the Santa Lucia Preserve
Driving the Santa Lucia Preserve
  I’ve often used this blog to talk about the journey of life.  Well this weekend we took a real journey with real paths and real lessons to help a real relationship.  There was nothing really wrong with the relationship with my daughter. It just wasn’t as warm as I would have liked it to be.  We always talk about “Momma’s Boys” and “Daddy’s Little Girl”.  My wife and son definitely have the former but my daughter and I don’t quite have the latter.  So we took the opportunity of a Father-Daughter camping retreat with her classmates to a natural preserve near Carmel, CA.  Driving south from San Francisco to the Carmel Valley takes an hour and 45 minutes.  Our final destination although only 20 miles further through the Santa Lucia Preserve took an additional hour.  The winding climb up the mountain was a Tour de France paradise for cyclists.  We encounter many through the winding road barely wide enough for 2 cars.  Fortunately Herbie (see above) was small enough to deal with the winding switch backs up Robinson Canyon Road. 
 
As we left the Carmel Valley, my cell phone(s) went dead.  I was now “going dark”.  No messages from my wife.  It was just me and my seven year old daughter.  It was our time to be together and a chance to develop more of that dad and daughter bond.  Unfortunately my daughter is not like her older brother.  She’s quiet and loves to sleep in the car.  The drive was mostly in silence other than my DVD player so it gave me a time to get away from it all.   No online media, no clocks, no televisions.
Herbie overlooks the Carmell Valley
Herbie overlooks the Carmel Valley

  The deeper we went into the preserve, the narrower the roads became.  I was suddenly overcome by how easy it was to get away and leave the world behind.

  Just two hours away from one of the major cities in the U.S. I was now dodging chipmunks, squirrels and snakes.  I often stopped in the middle of this deserted road for several minutes waiting for another car to come by to confirm the directions, but no cars came along so I ventured forth wondering if I’d ever find the other fathers and their daughters.  My daughter woke up from her nap and asked if we were lost.  I kidded her that when we are in “Herbie” we are never lost.   Part of this trip was to help our daughter realize that her father is equally a parent that she can rely upon.
The 2-way road in life
The 2-way road in life

 

Our relationship is fine by most people’s standards but we don’t spend enough time together to really bond like a father and his son who play golf.  She is daddy’s little girl but hanging alone with her dad is tough for her, I can tell.  She has often indicated to me how uncomfortable she is driving with me in Herbie.

 
This time she screamed with joy and giggled as we rushed up and down over the hills as Herbie took her for a ride until we reached the Northern edge of the Los Padres National Forest.    I’ve always driven my car just to show my kids a fun side to growing up as well as to act a symbol that life is not full of material things such as expensive cars and other luxury items.  As I mentioned, my daughter is slightly shy and my goal of this trip was to get her out of her shell and to try to be more adventurous and show her the road less traveled.   With her mother’s battle with cancer in the past year, she has shown some hesitancy and cautiousness in life and I wanted to make sure she understood that there are risks in life that you can take without getting hurt.  Literally, Herbie and I were taking her on a new adventure to show another side of her father other than the working dad.    We finally arrived and pitched the tent and took a look around.  Some of the girls who arrived earlier were running around screaming.  I finally convinced her to put on her bathing suit and got her to join in a class hike.
Water Slide
Water Slide

 

That jump set the tone for the rest of our weekend as she got brave enough to go down the 200 foot waterslide that she had at first refused to try and later she fished frogs out of the pool with their sliminess in her hands for me to touch.   That night in the tent we talked and laughed.  For a dad, there is nothing that makes a dad’s heart beat more proudly than to hear his little girl laugh.   A close second is when your daughter shows you that she feels comfortable and safe when you are around them.  Usually every night I give my daughter a kiss on the cheek as I tuck her into bed.  That night out in the valley my daughter gave me the most special hug I’ve ever had.  She made me promise that we’d do this again next year.  I told her that as long as she had fun and we discovered new things together, we could do this forever.   I know this sounds like a simple trip and a simple lesson, but that is what life is all about. Small yet adventurous journeys.

 
The hike was pretty much a successful mission. We hiked a very treacherous path to a waterfall which was freezing cold. I held her hand along the trail which had areas of 100 foot drops and while she was very cautious at first, she eventually started displaying a sense of assuredness with her footing. Still it was good to get some insight into her personality. She wasn’t too adventurous and always exhibited a sense of caution (this is a good note for 10 years from now). At the waterfall she looked at me when one of the other dads jumped off the top. “Should I do it?” I asked her. She looked at me as if I was kidding and that there was no way her daddy would jump 30 feet down into freezing water. This was my chance. When I ripped off my shirt she wrinkled her face as if to say, “You can’t fool me. I’m your daughter and I know you’ll never do it.” As all the little girls cheered for me to jump I could see me daughter with her hands wanting to cover her eyes. The jump was more invigorating than you could imagine. Freezing cold, if I had any circulatory issues, my body is fine now! As I swam across to the rocks where she stood I could see her clapping and cheering with a hug smile. Her daddy was not scared and was pretty brave and very cold. I’m sure the water in Beijing must have been this cold because I broke any records that Michael Phelps had established at the Olympic Games. Later on, once back from the nature hike, I saw my daughter sitting around the outdoor whirlpool with some of the other girls and talking about the “cool dads”. She had a bright smile when one of the girls said I was cool because I jumped off the waterfall. When we eventually returned home the first thing she would tell my wife (although I told her not to) was about dad’s “crazy jump” off a waterfall.

The Recreation Area
The Recreation Area

Should you want to visit, there are many semi-private grounds in the preserve.  Here is the map to get there if you want to take a drive to one of the more peaceful and beautiful places in Northern California.  If you are visiting the famous Carmel by the Sea, the Monterey Bay Aquarium or famed Pebble Beach, the preserve is right there.

In the end though for me, it was just what my daughter and I needed.  I needed to find a daughter who’s love didn’t seem so stiff and awkward.  She needed to see a dad who was more fun and able to help her when her mother was not around.  Seeing her seek out my hand on the hike along our treacherous hike warmed my heart, but at the same time seeing no worry on her face as she held my hand while danger hung below us was a great metaphor for life with my little girl.  I smiled knowing “Daddy’s Little Girl” really did need her dad and we had a weekend that would carry us for a long time.
 
Hiking to the falls
Hiking to the falls

The drive home was still quiet but there was a different vibe as Herbie returned us safely from our little detour in life.   A detour that offered a more scenic route for a few days and created a great new rhythm to a relationship between a father and his “daddy’s little girl”.